Life seems to go in waves right now. We'll hit a stride and things with the kids go swimmingly. And then the current changes and it's all we can do to keep our heads above water. Well that's the kind of week it's been.
Jack's been argumentive. He's talking back, he's more emotional and above all else he's just not mature enough to know how to properly deal with those emotions. Which has led to more screaming, and fit throwing and tears than we've seen in a long time. And I'm at a total loss. How do you teach a 3 year old the meaning of "respect"? How do I get him to understand that just because the sounds coming out of your mouth aren't real words, they're still cruel? How do I let him know that I get what he's feeling, but it's still not okay to act out like that? But really, those are just the symptoms of a deeper problem, one that I haven't put my finger on yet but that's keeping me up at night. And yes, I realize much of this is normal at this age. We have to go through some learning curves, but I still want to get to the bottom of it. Does he need more one-on-one time? Does he need more physical activity? Do we need to start some character education curriculum? Is it because he's not in school and his little extroverted self is suffering from lack of socialization?
|It could also have something to do with the fact that we're still coming off a cousin high!|
And inside I'm thinking, "I know baby, I know... Sometimes I don't like Maryland either. I miss the beach too. And I know Nonnie's pool is better than our blow up number, and Poppa jumps with you on the trampoline, and having 4 cousins is way more fun than just one brother, and the little woods at the end of our street isn't nearly as adventurous as the 100 acre woods you've seen on Winnie the Pooh ... but this is our home, this is where God's placed us, and it is what we make it. But the way you're feeling right now? I totally get that."
Now Jude, Jude's got different issues. He hasn't picked up on toddler swearing or talking back. When Jude wants to protest he does one of three things: 1.) throws himself protrate on the floor and lies there without saying or doing anything, 2.) head-butts you or, 3.) runs laps around the kitchen, dining, living room while yelling "ahhhh" which is actually sounds more like "ah-ah-ah-ah" because he runs like his mama and everytime his feet smack the floor it shakes the house and cuts off a little of his airflow. Other than his toddler tantrums Jude's not necessarily bad, he's just being a 2 year old. And a little boy at that. From the moment he wakes up until approximately 1 hour after we put him to bed - he's talking. He likes to ask the same questions over and over and over again. Usually ones he already knows the answer to, like "Where Daddy go? Where Yaya go? Where [insert name of every person he knows] go?" The good thing is he sometimes answers them himself: "Daddy go new-car. Daddy go to werr."
|Jude got a boo-boo and needed a band-aid. So then Jack proceeded to show me every little cut and scrape on his body and requested a band-aid for each. Brothers, always competing.|
|Happier days with Aunt Rachel.|
|Pre-teething: We took her to the dolphin show. She stood on my legs and clapped and squealed (loudly) the entire time. I think the people in front of us were starting to get a little annoyed.|
|But on the other hand Julia was happy today and much more like herself.|
|Oh yeah, definitely more like herself today.|